Getting Closer deck
Questions to Ask When You Want to Get Closer
12 real questions from Getting Closer — the gentlest deck, and the one most people start with.
Getting closer to someone isn’t one big conversation. It’s a series of small ones where you each say something slightly more honest than the situation required — and nothing bad happens.
These 12 are a curated sample from the Getting Closer deck, exactly as they appear in the game. They work on a third date, a tenth anniversary, or a long drive with someone you already know well.
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12 questions to try from Getting Closer
- What’s the funniest word in English to you?
- If you had the chance to completely start over, would you take it?
- What do you want, even though it probably won’t make you happier?
- What brave thing have you done that few people know about?
- Do you find the idea of lifelong love reassuring or intimidating?
- What’s one little thing that instantly lifts your mood?
- What advice would you give your younger self?
- What’s one thing you would love people to ask you about more often?
- When you meet someone new, what makes you decide you like them?
- How does watching your parents grow older make you feel?
- If you started a charity, what issue would it focus on?
- What’s an unusual fact you find fascinating?
What you’ll explore in this deck
Warm-ups that still feel personal
Light questions that get both of you talking before anything heavier arrives.
Values without a lecture
What you want, what you’d restart, what you’d protect — asked as conversation, not as a quiz.
The person behind the routine
Moods, brave moments, and the small preferences that usually stay unspoken.
How to use these questions
Start light, stay curious
The easier cards are deliberate. Answer them properly — the warm-up is what makes later questions feel normal to ask.
Follow the answer, not the list
If something they say is more interesting than the next card, abandon the list. The questions exist to start conversations, not to be finished.
Ask “why” once
One honest follow-up turns an answer into a story. More than one starts to feel like a cross-examination.
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These 12 are examples from Getting Closer, not the whole deck. The full experience has 103 questions, the card-by-card TalkCards flow, and unlocks with Premium — alongside eight other TalkCards decks. The Curious how it works? See the FAQ.